A New Year, a new you

Throughout the year, amidst the myriad of challenges, we anticipate the winter holidays, and then before we know it, they’re over, leaving us to marvel at where the time went.  And with a whoosh, in rushes the new year.  We determine to make resolutions; promises to ourselves.  Be a better person.  To love others more deeply.  Work harder.  Learn a new skill which you have been itching to do your whole life.  Lose weight.  Work out more, or even to begin a exercise regiment.  We seek ways for self-improvement.  Some we wind up sticking with while others are quickly tossed to the side.

Gazing into a mirror, we try to summarize the events of the recent past.  What we did wrong.  What we did right.  Those we may have inadvertently offended.  Those we may have encouraged along the way.  We are filled with hopes and fears of what the new year may throw at us; either a raining down of blessings or a crashing head-long into heartache.

Nobody, we understand, can accurately see into the future, though there are a few that insist they can.  If it were possible to project ourselves to December 31, 2015, what would we encounter?  Would we discover a life that had been more fruitful, or one that was awash with pain?

I, for one, do not wish to see what the future holds for me, for we know that our lives are filled with hope-filled moments and shattered dreams, triumphs and disappointments.  What type of person you are determines how well you deal with these issues, when life turns itself upside down.  It’s easy to be joyful and happy when life is at it’s best, but when life bombards you with painful moments when we least expect them, it is almost impossible to keep smiling through the tears.

I believe we need to embrace the beauty that surrounds us.  We need to forgive others for the wounds they have caused us.  Not only does forgiveness fill us with peace of mind, it protects our sanity as well.  And holding grudges is bad for your health, or so I’ve read.  It is cancer to your soul.

So in this coming new year, I implore you to take time to enjoy the little things in life we often take for granted:  watching the sun rise, hiking through a blooming meadow bursting with color, to immerse yourself in a good book, drink a glass of fine wine, bask in the warmth of a sunny July day, or just spending quality time with those you hold dearest.

Don’t lose sleep over the things we can’t change, or worry about things that will most likely not happen.  I am guilty of that myself.  Give up bad habits and embrace healthier ones.  Even small changes like going for a daily walk can do wonders for the body, not to mention the soul.

Here’s wishing you all, my friends, a very healthy, safe, and joy-filled New Year.  In addition, may it be filled with good memories, an abundance of love, and peace; and may sorrows be subtracted.  Blessings.


Into 2013

Okay, here we are, into another new year. We survived 2012. Now we have a brand-new year ahead of us to do things right. To love. To work. To create. To laugh. A chance to lose that weight I’ve been struggling since my youngest wa born, never mind that was 16 1/2 years ago. Shhh. So what is on your agenda? What are your New Year’s Resolutions and how long will you keep them? Or have they already been tossed out the window? I say, live life. Don’t waste time making up resolutions you won’t be keeping and then beating yourself up over not keeping them. Maybe make one and keep it. I think that is far easier for us mere mortals. I have a great love of books. I have been accumulating many paperbacks over the past year over at our local resale shop. Last year I finished 13 books. Right now I am reading a thriller by Mark Greaney called ‘On Target’. I’ve never liked spy thrillers before, but the older I get the more I like to try new genres. Keeps life interesting and expands the mind. Especially good for me since I will be 50 this year. Scary. A half a century. But I won’t be focusing on that. I will forget about the graying hair, the facial fuzz, the tiny wrinkles, and the creaking bones when I first get out of bed in the morning.

Yes. I will focus on the good in life this year. I will learn to love others even though they may not reciprocate. I will try to be open to trying new things. I have a definite fear of looking like an idiot, so I normally do not try new things. I’d like to write more often(everyday would be nice, even if it is only 30 minutes or less). I want to watch more movies that I enjoy. I want to be free to feel, to cry, to experience all that life has to offer. I want to eat healthier; gluten-free, lactose-free(for a reason not just because I want to be ‘different’). I want to understand my sons better. I want to be more understanding of my husband. We will be married for 23 years come May.

Well, there it is. My heart out there. Focus on what you want to accomplish this year, no matter how large or small your aspirations. Love big. Choose wisely the words you speak. They can come back and bite you in the ass one day. Until next time, stay safe.

Almost Over

Yes. Here we are, almost at the close of another year. Goodbye 2012. Hello 2013. Hey, I guess we can all be happy that the world did not end. I, for one, think that the whole Mayan calendar thing was ridiculous. No one knows when the end is going to come. Why even guess at it. It will end when it’s damn good and ready to. But I can’t complain; at least not much. Though we had a year filled with heartache; the death of my father-in-law; we also had joy; my parents coming up to visit in September. I discovered the reason for some of my health issues; lactose-intolerant and gluten allergy(oh, don’t you love when bloggers get all personal and stuff?). I’ve read quite a few good works of fiction lately and have added to my collection of paperbacks. I look forward to getting a lot of reading done in 2013. I also look forward to writing my first novel. There are so many ideas floating around my head that I can’t seem to keep them all straight and organized. One of my biggest problems I face is my definite lack of organizational skills, just ask my husband, he’ll fill you in on all the sloppy details. Perhaps that is what is holding me back from getting more of my work submitted, my lack of organization. I so desperately want to submit my works of short fiction and poetry, but I can’t seem to carve out more time for it. The sitting down and figuring out where they should be sent to is one of my main downfalls. Help!?

But life and love goes on. My biggest dilemnia now is: do I stay up til midnight or fall alseep early? We don’t go out anymore. We no longer drink or do a lot of crazy stuff we used to do in our ‘younger’ years. I’ll be turning 50 in 2013. Soooo excited, not. But I try to stay fit and active, healthy and sane all at the same time. Maybe I need to make New Year’s resolutions that I won’t bother to keep anyway. Like finally fitting into a size 2. Wow! Wouldn’t that be grand? Or how ’bout go for broke and fit in a size 0. Now that’s a goal every girl dreams of. Sigh. Okay, let’s get back to reality here. Just want to be in shape; not round; and I know that round is a shape(my husband likes to use that line on me), just not the one I’m aiming for!

So think on all of the good times that you and your loved ones enjoyed this year, and ponder upon those things that maybe you could have done better. Remember those that you loved and lost. Keep them firmly in your memory bank. Love them for who they were and all that they had done for you. And remember if you are going out on New Year’s Eve, be safe, not stupid. It only takes a moment to change a life forever. Let’s look forward to a wonderful and fun-filled, and adventerous 2013. We never know what the future holds, but isn’t it fun to imagine all the crazy, naughty, loving, fun things that we can do and get into? Oh, trust me, as I writer I can imagine a lot of things. So, dear ones, may blessings abound for you in this approaching new year, and may joy and peace grace your homes and your hearts.