This will be my last post for the year. My intention was always to post something new at least once a week. Unfortunately I’ve failed at that. But no use beating myself up over it. I can’t change the past but I can do something about it in the future. A new year is almost upon us. For some of us this is a blessing and a relief. For others, it is a painful reminder of what surrounds us. Fear of the unknown. Fear of ‘what-if’s’. Will I still have my job next year? Will my spouse leave me? Will my illness get worse? So much stress and worry. But since we cannot see into the future what lays ahead, we have to take it one day at a time. Baby steps. We can’t change the horrible economy. We can try to do a better job at loving and caring about our spouses. We can get help. We can go to counseling. Life is so unpredictable. We can’t see around the corner and peek at what is coming at us.
But this post is not meant to be negative. I want you to read ‘hope’ within these words. Hope for a new season in your life. Hope that things will get better, or hope that things will remain just as they are, if you are pleased and thankful for what you already have. I believe that we live with too much fear. I for one am included in that. I am a worrier. I bite my nails still. I overeat to calm my frayed nerves. I get sick to my stomach sometimes, and have terrible headaches. And for what? Because I’m stressing out about something that will most likely never occur. I recommend meditation or prayer. A higher power. I believe in God. I believe that He has all things under control and no matter how hard I struggle to have things my way, I believe that He is ultimately the one with absolute control. I think that we need to keep our eyes focused on something bigger than ourselves. I’m not saying that you have to believe in what I believe. I’m a firm believer in not forcing any religion down anyone else’s throat. But I do think that we can find comfort in knowing that there is someone or something in control, who’s got everything in capable hands. Leading us. Guiding us. Teaching us.
So as we look to 2014, let us release all of this strain, and worry, and focus on the good. We usually cannot do much about the things that pop up unexpectedly in our lives, like the loss of employment, but we can take a deep breath and move on to something else. We can release the ‘bad energy’ and move on to something better, something brighter. Don’t settle for second-best. Don’t settle for complacency. You are so very important. See yourself as valuable. As a contributing member of society. Life goes on even when the pain comes. Talk to someone, if you need to. Don’t go through all of this turmoil alone. We all need people, even in this social media age. Please never look at your life as being worthless, as you being worthless. You are NOT worthless. You are made for a reason. No one is here by accident. This is what I believe. Don’t take your own life. I read somewhere once that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. In life, this too shall pass. Troubles don’t last for a lifetime. I know what I’m talking about. I tried, years ago, to take my own life. But you know what, even though I was buried in anguish at the time, life did get better.
Please, please, please look for the bright spot. There is always one if you dare to seek it out. Love yourself. Let others love you, too. Don’t wall yourself up. Get out there in live! Life is short. It is unpredictable, but it is beautiful. Please don’t squander another day.